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Families for Justice Families for Justice is a non-profit organization that assists children and their parents experiencing the trauma of marital dissolution in the court system. We provide advice and advocacy to ensure justice for families caught up in the matrimonial and family courts. We are working for a faster, less costly, less distressing and less difficult system. We gather data about cases and proceedings for a greater knowledge of what works for families, where the system appears to have failed or, in some instances, where it has harmed families. We advocate vigorously within the court system, the NY State Legislature and with state and US agencies and other organizations for major reforms in the court system. An important aspect of our work is to increase awareness of the problems in family courts in New York and nationwide. We are currently working on a documentary film project to illustrate the breadth and depth of the problems. In particular, through the exposition of dramatic and real events, we hope to increase public understanding of the growing incidence of ³scandal² cases in which court processes contribute to harming families and children. If you know of any case histories worthy of inclusion in the documentary, we would be very interested in speaking with you. Please contact us at the telephone number below. If you'd like to contact us with questions or comments, you can reach Families for Justice via: |
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Losing Battle: A judge denied Shockome custody of her kids http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/14870310/site/newsweek/ By Sarah Childress Newsweek Sept. 25, 2006 issue - It took 6 years for Genia Shockome to gather the courage to leave her husband, Tim. He pushed her, kicked her and insulted her almost from the moment they married in 1994, she says. She tried to start over with their children when the family moved from Texas to Poughkeepsie, N.Y. It didn't last long. Tim called her constantly at work and, after they split up, pounded on her door and screamed obscenities, she alleged in a complaint filed in 2001. Tim was charged with harassment. As part of a plea deal, Tim agreed to a stay-away order—but denies ever abusing her or the children. In custody hearings over the past six years, Tim has insisted that he's been a good father, and argued that Genia's allegations poisoned their children against him. The judge sided with Tim. This summer he was granted full custody of the kids, now 11 and 9. Genia was barred from contacting them. Genia is one of many parents nationwide who have lost custody due to a controversial concept known as parental alienation. Under the theory, children fear or reject one parent because they have been corrupted or coached to lie by the other. Parental alienation is now the leading defense for parent’s accused of abuse in custody cases, according to domestic-violence advocates. And it's working. The few current studies done on the subject consider only small samples. But according to one 2004 survey in Massachusetts by Harvard's Jay Silverman, 54% of custody cases involving documented spousal abuse were decided in favor of the alleged batterers. Parental alienation was used as an argument in nearly every case. This year the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges denounced the theory as "junk science," and at least 4 states have passed legislation to curtail its use in custody cases involving allegations of domestic violence. "It's really been a cancer in the family courts," says Richard Ducote, an attorney in Pittsburgh who has represented abuse victims in custody cases for 22 years. "It's made it really difficult for parents to protect their kids. If you ask for protection, you're deemed a vindictive, alienating parent." It may seem hard to fathom how a judge could award custody to a parent accused of abuse. But battered spouses often don't file criminal charges—so no judicial finding is made against their mates—and family-court judges typically aren't trained to referee the complexities of abusive relationships. (Although men are sometimes battered by their wives, women are the victims in the majority of abuse cases.) Judges often throw out documented evidence of spousal abuse, arguing that it is irrelevant in a custody case. And experts say that family-court judges often look favorably on the alleged abuser because he seems more willing to share custody than the accuser—who is hell-bent on keeping the father away from the child. According to a survey by Geraldine Stahly, a psychology professor at California State University at San Bernardino, attorneys will caution battered spouses against reporting abuse in court so they don't lose their children. (Stahly and other academics say the parental-alienation argument has more legitimacy in custody disputes that don't involve charges of abuse.) Parental-alienation syndrome was first introduced by child psychiatrist Richard Gardner in the 1980s. Fathers-rights groups picked up on the idea and began trying it out in court. These groups condemn abusers. But Dan Hogan, executive director of Fathers & Families, a nonprofit group that advocates for joint custody, argues that all too often the accusers lie in order to win custody of their kids. There's a small but growing movement to ban parental alienation in custody cases, sparked by embattled parents bonding online. They've linked with lawyers and advocates for battered spouses across the country. At least four states, including California, have laws protecting parents who make good-faith abuse allegations. Others may soon follow their lead. Greg Jacob, an attorney who takes cases for abused parents pro bono, is drafting legislation to shop to Virginia and Maryland next month. Meanwhile, parents like Genia keep fighting. "It's so hard, having my children lost," she says, her voice breaking. "This was my life—my children." The Importance of Fathers in the Healthy Development of Children.
Appendix E - Tips for Dads The Dads at a Distance Web site has been designed to help fathers who are business travelers, military men, noncustodial fathers, airline pilots, travel guides, traveling salesmen, railroad workers, truckers, professional athletes, musicians/entertainers, actors, corporate executives, and any other fathers who have to be away from their children to maintain and strengthen the relationships they have with their children while they are away.
Before you leave home next time, hide some treasure (notes of appreciation, videos of you reading stories, candy, or toys) around the house. Be sure to draw a treasure map of where you have hidden these things, and then mail it home. If your child has a portable phone, then you can talk to them and give hints as they hunt for the treasure. If you are not living with your child, you can still do this activity by mailing the treasures ahead of time to the person who is taking care of your child. More activities and resources for long distance dads and their families can be found at Dads at a Distance Web site at http://www.daads.com. The National Long Distance Relationship Building Institute. (2001). 20 long distance activities for dads at a distance [On-line]. Available: http://www.fambooks.com/daads/fathering.html.
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Thursday, October 20, 2005 at 10 pm ET on PBS (check local listings)
This powerful new PBS documentary chronicles the impact of domestic violence on children and the recurring failings of family courts across the country to protect them from their abusers.
MATRIMONIAL REFORM COMMISSION HEARINGS MS. DUFF: Good afternoon. My name is Patricia Duff. I want to thank the commission for allowing me to appear today and for attempting the Herculean task of fixing a very broken system. Over the last year litigants who are often separated by their pain and grinding aspects of the process have begun to find each other to a degree I have not seen before. Too many cannot be here today because they have live cases that are still ongoing and have been prohibited from speaking here today, and many are so fearful of retaliation that they would be reluctant to come forward. One, whom I will call JT, thought she was living the American dream. She immigrated to the United States, became a medical doctor, and eventually had a baby girl from a relationship that did not lead to marriage. She was thrilled to be the child's primary caregiver, although she allowed the father to see the baby girl whenever the father wanted. Starting when the child was 14 months old, through a series of orders and conferences over a three year period, without a hearing or the testimony of a single witness, physical custody of the baby girl was turned over to the father so that the mother now sees her 4-year-old daughter one week, out of three. After winning custody and relegating the mother to alternate weekend visits, the father then further curtailed the mother's rights by filing a restraining order, declaring that the child was frightened of the mother and finally disallowing even telephone contact. I happened to see the mother with the child at a dance recital, which the mother was allowed to attend. I am no psychologist or law guardian, whose expertise is in the law, rather than child rearing or psychology, but this child exhibited only the wonderful joy of seeing her mother, and jumped into her arms with a wide smile. (Applause.) MS. DUFF: The mother is now able to see her daughter only with supervised visitation, a further action that has drained her emotionally and financially. Why should this mother, who was doing fine taking primary care of her child for the first five years of the child's life, be condemned from the child's existence and forced to fight battle after exhausting battle simply to restore a small piece of the important role a mother ought to have? (Applause.) MS. DUFF: What was so broken for this little girl that the court had to set up this elaborate parenting arrangement to fix it? There are too many stories to go into in 20 the short time allotted here, including many that involve men as their parental rights to their children are eroded out of existence. (Applause.) MS. DUFF: My colleague, Jody Krisiloff, and many others of us have worked very diligently over the last months to put together a document which we will be presenting to you later -- it is quite comprehensive -- suggestions for matrimonial reform -- focusing on forensic and guardian reform, and what we hope will be better due process with respect to standards for primary care. We urge that custody be determined first and quickly at the onset of the divorce process and within 75 days of commencement of the proceedings. (Applause.) MS. DUFF: The child's wishes should be heard, but they should not be seen through the prism of the law guardian or forensic. (Applause.) MS. DUFF: The court could hold an on-the-record examination of each party, within 45 to 75 days after filing a petition for divorce, to assess which parent is the primary caretaker. Visitation issues should be worked out in consideration of the respective involvement of the parties prior to dissolution and the child's age. Just as the American Law Institute has adopted these principles, we hope the courts of New York will, too. Unless stipulated and agreed to by the parties, the court should allow each party no more than one 15 day extension for this hearing, and only necessitated by court scheduling or medical or other family emergency. In other words, get the process moving. (Applause.) MS. DUFF: The court will then issue a factual finding, including a preliminary statement of which parent the court finds to be the primary caregiver, within 30 days after the court conducts the examination. The children's primary residence should not be altered pending the court's determination, but a visitation schedule appropriate to the needs and age of the children should be negotiated and discussed and adopted if the parties no longer share the same residence. Mediation and settlements may be attempted during this time frame. With greater sensitivity to the history of how the parents have divided caregiving in the past, the rest of the equation becomes must easier to resolve in many, if not most, cases. We urge a dialogue to help redefine the notion of joint custody -- acknowledging that both parents are important to a child's life, but that children cannot be divided in Solomonic fashion. (Applause.) JUDGE MILLER: Miss Duff, you have one minute. MS. DUFF: We hope that consideration of no-fault divorce is not considered without first working out a better system or determining what happens to the children. MS. DUFF: -- seriously consider this approach. We have any number of very bright and thoughtful and deliberate people, and I think it is time that we help you move forward. Thank you. (Applause.) For more testimony of Matrimonial Reform Commission, please visit: NYC Transcript 10/14/04 Albany Transcript - AM 11/04/04 Albany Transcript - PM 11/04/04 Buffalo and the latest New York hearing transcripts are not available yet .Go to the Matrimonial Reform Commission site for updates:
MEASURES FOR REFORM/ SUMMARY OUTLINE: Families for Justice KEY MEASURES FOR MATRIMONIAL REFORM: 1) Eliminate arbitrary results by emphasizing the importance of clear standards for determining child custody/support/equitable distribution, i.e., custody and time-sharing based on history of parenting prior to marital break up (Approximate Care guideline called for by the American Law Institute). 2) Speed up the court process Complete the legal process quickly within a finite time frame, such as 45-75 days - especially custody determinations. 3) Improve adherence to due process and rules of law by all parties including matrimonial lawyers, Law guardians, forensics evaluators, referees, and judges. 4) Create clear penalties and accountability to those who break the rules. 5) Eliminate the use of Law Guardians and Guardians ad litem except by the parties¹ choice or in extreme cases and only if held accountable to clear rules by which they may be de-certified. Guardians should be chosen by random assignment to avoid appearance or practice of cronyism or potential ³sucking up² to judges by appointees to obtain assignments. 6) Drastically limit psychological forensics to instances where there is evidence of real psychological issues or if one or both parties wish to bring in a forensic as an expert witness. In practice, both Law Guardians and forensics undermine due process substantially. Institute certification of Psychological experts with clear rules as to how they may be de-certified. 7) Provide a safe review process of complaints and cases which allows for redress for victims of misconduct, including better Appellate review of cases and special review in cases where there is evidence of misconduct, perhaps by a review board that includes ex-litigants. 8) Delineate specific procedures in special circumstances such as child abuse, domestic violence or other critical situations. Raising concerns of child abuse or domestic violence should not cause loss of custody from overturning long-standing parenting arrangements, even if the court has doubts about such allegations. 9) Include litigant representation in current and future deliberations of court reform. 10) Increase sunshine and transparency on all aspects of the process through collection of data on process and outcomes; provide information packets and websites to new litigants with information and helpful telephone numbers, including safe place for complaints. 11) Create a true culture of ethics and integrity up and down the court system - Zero tolerance for questionable and unethical behavior. 12) Improve legal practice by matrimonial bar. Require lawyers to put settlement offers in writing to both parties. Create real place where complaints gains t lawyers can he heard without retaliation. 13) Increase methods for reducing court time and legal fees. Provide mediation and alternative means of dispute resolution and alternatives to representation by lawyers. Eliminate bias against pro se litigants. 14) Put dignity back in the court room for both parties. MEASURES FOR REFORM/FULL DETAILS: Coming soon.
CUSTODY CHAOS DA Pushes for Appointment of NY Judges New York Lawyer By Daniel Wise Brooklyn District Attorney Charles J. Hynes, who is conducting an investigation into judicial corruption, announced Tuesday that he favors the appointment of judges. In an address at the Down Town Association, Mr. Hynes said he now backs a system for the appointment of judges, similar to that used for the New York Court of Appeals, "to ensure excellence in the state Supreme Court, the premier trial court in the state." In Tuesday's address, Mr. Hynes said the level of vitriol in judicial campaigns in other states has led him to endorse the more drastic change, which would completely remove the selection of judges from the elective process. Mr. Hynes said at the Down Town Association that he hopes to continue the probe for another two years after this fall's election. Ultimately, it will lead to disclosures that so "outrage people" that the "system cannot stand and will have to be changed," he said. Mr. Hynes also said that a group he helped form a year ago has been pushing the state's legislative leaders to hold public hearings on the selection of judges. Mr. Hynes' group, the Coalition for Judicial Justice, is seeking to build public support to change the way judges are selected. It has not taken a position in favor of either primaries or appointments. An overhaul is needed, Mr. Hynes told the members of the Down Town Association, because the convention system creates "an illusion" that voters participate. Challenges to the political leaders' choices for delegates are unusual, and, Mr. Hynes said, leaders have advised him that they "instruct delegates" about which candidates to vote for. Coalition for Reform The 15-member coalition is an eclectic group that includes long-time supporters of an appointive system, such as Fern Schair, chairwoman of the Fund for Modern Courts; Patricia Duff and Monica Getz, leaders of groups seeking to reform the way matrimonial cases are handled; Douglas Schoen, a lawyer and principal of the political consulting firm Penn Schoen & Berland; and Arthur Eisenberg, legal director of the New York Civil Liberties Union. Thomas A. Reppetto, president of the Citizens Crime Commission, a group supporting more vigorous law enforcement, has participated in the organization's deliberations but not as a member. The group has several objectives, but to date most of its work has centered on changing the way judges are selected. All the members "agree on the need to get the best people on the bench," Mr. Reppetto said. Former Appellate Division Justice E. Leo Milonas said the group is seeking to build public support for change by "influencing the movers and shakers in the business and legal communities to take an interest in improving the judiciary." Mr. Milonas, who formerly sat in the First Department and is now a partner at Pillsbury Winthrop, joined the organization when he was president of the Association of the Bar of the City of New York, which has long supported the appointment of judges. Another member of the coalition, Charles Kolb, head of the Committee for Economic Development, a national organization that counts chief executive officers of major corporations and other prominent individuals among its members, brings considerable clout to the group's efforts, Mr. Hynes said. Mr. Kolb's group has agreed to target New York as a state to push for change to an appointive system for judges, Mr. Hynes said. Link to: The full story
Law guardians, who are appointed to represent the interests of children in custody disputes, were brought within the ambit of the court system's rules for fiduciaries in the spring 2003, after a lengthy investigation by another commission appointed by Chief Judge Kaye. But because forensic experts are appointed directly by a judge, they do not come within the scope of the strengthened fiduciary rules. Were they hired by the law guardian, the experts would fall within the rule as "secondary appointees." In addition you may want to browse additional coverage of court issues: | |||||